A group of us from work joined a summer volleyball league, and while most of us had some sort of experience playing in high school or college, only one of us really knew what he was doing. And to be real honest, we joined to have an excuse to enjoy an adult beverage together on Thursday nights after work. Good old fashioned team bonding right there.
In other words, we were not great. Three weeks in and we’d won one set. With three sets in a match, that is one out of nine sets that we had won. You would never know we were the losing team, however, because we were definitely having the most fun!
Which got me thinking — how can we keep losing and still have fun? Well, maybe losing isn’t always a negative thing. Here are three reasons why losing can be good for the soul.
Learning how to turn a bad situation into a good situation
Most of the time losing makes us upset, but pouting about it all day won’t change the score. People who know how to stay positive when the outcome doesn’t look so hot are valued, both in the workplace and in personal relationships. Losing is not the end of the world, it’s an opportunity to improve. Which leads me to my next point:
It’s a blessing in disguise –— losing makes us grow
We all had that spoiled friend growing up. You know the one. He/she always got what they wanted and threw a fit if they didn’t win. You are different though. Slowly but surely you’ve earned your success as a result of hard work and learning from your mistakes. You’ve fallen down, gotten back up and tried again. That’s what character feels like. Not only do you know how to be a good sport, but you’ve become an interesting, three-dimensional person who understands loss and can relate to others. Not to mention you have the tenacity to see projects through instead of quitting at the first sign of failure.
It makes winning that much sweeter
Winning loses its glory when you’re constantly experiencing it, and can cause us to be ungrateful and overall unsatisfied without understanding why. If you think about, solving a challenging, multi-step math problem is more rewarding than solving 2 + 2 = 4. So whether it’s finally winning after a long losing streak, or winning a competitive neck-and-neck, sitting-on-the-edge-of-your-seat type of game, you’ll feel 10 times better earning your win as opposed to when it’s just handed to you.
I’m proud to say that in our fifth week we finally won our first match and it felt really, really, really good.